See The Destructive Power of Hate to Health
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Now,just try to ask yourself the following questions: does hatred occupy a space in my life? Do I keep any feelings of hatred toward myself or anyone else? If you do, you are implored to address this negative feeling before it becomes something much more damaging. Hate, when left unchecked, will drain your spirit, tarnish your soul and darken your days
Hate turned outward is both dangerous and ugly. It can nurture violent crime and damaging behaviors. The last shooting at the L.A. Fitness gym in Pennsylvania in USA,is a painful reminder of this. The gunman’s hatred toward women and their perceived rejection of him motivated the desperation, insanity and carnage that cost many people their lives.
At the center of all hatred is blame, and this is especially true for hatred turned outward. When one feels like he/she has been seriously wronged or victimized by someone, his/her discontent and anger carries with it the potential seeds of hatred. This quote from Siddhartha Buddha explains it well:"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned".
This point is also shown in this anecdote of a Native American in origin: A grandfather is speaking with his young grandson. He tells the boy he has two wolves inside of him,fighting each other. The first is the wolf of peace, love and kindness. The other one is the wolf of fear, greed and hatred. "Which wolf do you think will win, grandfather?" asks the young boy. "Whichever one you feed" is the reply.
Consider the following five steps to decrease your hatred:
As you might recall, real H-bombs (hydrogen bombs) generate most of the energy they produce from something called nuclear fission. In addition to producing energy, nuclear fission may also produce ignites,vital for the initial explosion of a nuclear weapon.
Similarly, hatred produces energy for destructive power. And the fission – what actually ignites the explosion – is driven by the intense hostility, fear, anger or sense of injury one feels.
When you’re confronted by this kind of extreme dislike, you basically have two options regarding your response: You can either descend to the hater’s level and toss a few H-Bombs of your own, or you can recognize this behavior as a character flaw and decide to ignore it.
Overcoming Self-Hatred
Very often, we turn our feelings of dislike on ourselves, which is also damaging. Hate turned inward is able to crush your spirit and impact your health. Take overeating, for instance, which many see as a symptom of self-hate. By compulsively overeating, you’re actually making yourself sick, putting on unhealthy weight and contributing to a feeling of unattractiveness – all of these constitute self-punishment.
Overeating, however, is only one way that self-hatred manifests itself. Under the influence of hate, many people are driven to injure or cut themselves, engage in risky behaviors and shun those who love them.Self-haters are driven to punish themselves for different reasons, including feeling insecure, guilty, alone, unattractive, unproductive or self-critical. These negative, internal feelings shape and lead to the destructive impulses of self-hatred.
Ultimately, self-hatred is characterized by dislike for oneself and, most of time, low self-esteem. What’s particularly difficult about self-loathing is that you can’t stay away from the hater.
In fact, self-hatred is a corrosive virus of the mind. It weakens you emotionally and makes your body more vulnerable to sickness and disease by compromising your immune system. The antidote for self-hate, to refer to the Native American story earlier, is to totally stop feeding it!
How does one go about this? You must forgive yourself for whatever might have caused this toxic and self-inflicted emotional wound. Here’s one way: Write yourself a letter of forgiveness for your real or imagined offense, just as you would as if you were forgiving a loved one.
suggest keeping these five guidelines in mind as you write your letter:
- Write it out by hand to make it more personal.
- Be honest and very clear about your hatred – what is it about?
- Take responsibility for this hatred and say why it’s unfair and unjust.
- Forgive yourself for this self-hate as would forgive a dear ,loved one.
- Express in detail what you’ve learned from this hatred, make a written commitment to be kinder to yourself and end your letter by writing “I love you.”
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